This article reflects on the experiences of academics, collaborators and self-advocacy experts who formed an advisory group for a research project focused on people with learning disabilities’ experiences of renting their own homes. The paper describes the collaboration, how it changed because of Covid and because of changing relationships, and what worked well and what was challenging. This is in part because these more transparent accounts of working together are sometimes missing from research. They discuss issues relating to bureaucratic research systems which are largely inaccessible to people with learning disabilities and how we approached these. They also highlight the joys and benefits of the research approach that they adopted as well as the challenging and more difficult aspects.